A birth brat? Are you kidding me?!?!You might have seen the news recently that the Duchess of Sussex (the lady I hold personally responsible for the fact that no one has been able to spell my name correctly for the past 2 years 😜), has been described as a ‘birth brat’, which I can only assume is the journalistic birth equivalent to bridezilla.. ‘God! What was she asking for?’ you might be wondering.. ‘Lobster after the birth and a jewel encrusted birth pool?’
Nope. According to the press the Duchess wanted to be able to choose her own healthcare providers, her own place of birth and not be subjected to a photo shoot by the worlds media immediately after giving birth. Oh! Like.. basic human rights then?
The fact that requests like this, or even more specific choices (which we obviously don’t know Meghan’s preferences on), like whether or not to have a vaginal examination, whether or not to have continuous monitoring in labour, whether to accept a sweep at 40 weeks.. are seen as ‘unusual’, or ‘being difficult’ says a hell of a lot more about our society, women’s rights and the narrative around birth than it does about The Duchess of Sussex!
We don’t go to the hair dressers and get told- ‘well you’re turning 40 now so it’s time to get a crop style, I can see Grey’s in there so we must dye it, you have a big forehead so i’m just going to cut you a quick fringe’.. and if we DID get treated like this we’d leave the hair dressers, and tell all our friends not to go to that salon!
Why is birth any different? Why is the default expectation that the minute we fall pregnant our bodies become the property of other people. Whether that friends, family or even total strangers expressing their opinions about what we do or eat during pregnancy or our plans for birth.. or during labour itself when it’s expected for women to walk into a hospital and say ‘ok, get the baby out, do whatever it takes’.
On all our courses at Positively Birthing we focus a lot on what your choices are and how to take control of them. You’re not being difficult, or a brat, for having your own thoughts and opinions about what you want for your birth.. from the hundreds of women I’ve worked with and hundreds more birth stories I’ve heard, THIS is the single most important part of getting a positive birth experience. Not hypnobirthing, not being in a pool, not where you give birth- but deciding things for YOURSELF and being supported in these decisions.
If you want so many many more tips and ideas on ‘how to be a birth brat’ from the other Megan that knows a thing or two about it 🙋our group and private courses can be booked in Surrey and London on the website now! www.positivelybirthing.com… See MoreSee Less